goal oriented.

after thinking it over for a minute i said to him "i want to try to be less selfish."
he said "i don't think you're selfish."
"...maybe not so much. but i am definitely self absorbed."
"that's ok. somebody's gotta pay attention to you."

ohmygod. thank you.

and eat it too.

as they walked away from dinner she decided to ask him.

"were you disappointed to find out i was such an emotional trainwreck?"

he responded without hesitation.

"disappointed? no. no i wasn't disappointed. it was more like..it is more like i'm out to dinner. it's my birthday. all of my friends are with me and i've had a really great meal. and afterwards they bring out a huge birthday cake. and it's beautiful and i am really thankful and then i get ready to cut it and i ask who else wants a piece. and they all just say, 'oh no. it's ALL for you!' and i am looking at that big cake, and it's all for me...and i'm already really full. that's what it's like."

and she knew that couldn't be good.